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Sign the petition to get government support to prevent suicide

Sign the petition to get government support to prevent suicide

This is really short notice – but it could help get more funding as part of a National Suicide Prevention Plan.

This Monday – March 20 – Lifeline has a meeting with the Hon. Greg Hunt MP, the Federal Government Minister for Health.


Suicide Prevention Plan

LifeLine Suicide Prevention Plan

Or cut and paste my email below and email your friends and family.

We’ll have a better chance to get Federal Health Minister the Hon. Greg Hunt MP to commit to more government funding as part of a National Suicide Prevention Plan if I can go to the meeting with 150,000 signatures.

Please share the Lifeline petition far and wide on Facebook and Twitter.

Your signature helped get extra resources for suicide prevention in regional areas, plus seed funding for Lifeline’s text-based crisis support service, Text4Good.

But the big goal is to double funding for suicide prevention in Australia. At the moment, it’s half what’s spent on road safety. Yet twice as many people die from suicide as they do from road accidents.

At the meeting, we will discuss the development of a National Suicide Prevention Plan and Text4Good. We’ll also look at ways we can harness technology to help people in crisis and provide new Lifeline research highlighting a need for stronger focus on tackling social and emotional drivers of suicide.

Help get 150,000 signatures on this important petition before Monday 10:00am when the meeting will be held.

Thanks so much. I know we will get there with your help.

Kind regards, Pete Shmigel, CEO, Lifeline

To email the petition to your friends, just copy and paste or forward on the message below

I signed Lifeline’s petition calling on our Government to take urgent action to reduce the suicide death toll. Will you join me?

With that many Australians demanding action we have a much better chance of getting it – and saving lives.


Suicide is a terrible tragedy that touches far too many families and communities every year. It’s a national emergency that needs to be addressed.

It tears children, parents, siblings, partners and friends away from loved ones, and leaves a legacy of heartache and sadness.

Suicide takes more young lives in Australia than road accidents or cancer, but suicide prevention only gets half the government funding of road safety.

It’s a shocking and outrageous situation – and it demands an urgent response from our leaders. We can do better.

Please add your name to the petition today and tell your Government to ease the devastating impact of suicide.

If you or someone you know is in crisis or thinking about suicide there is help.

Lifeline is available on 13 11 14 or www.lifeline.org.au/gethelp

Mental Health First Aid Self Paced Online Course

Mental Health First Aid Self Paced Online Course

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SuperLove Hooded Jumper

⇒ Face to Face class to receive MHFA Accreditation

10th March – Follow the Dots, Eltham
Blended MHFA for White-Collar Workplace

The Blended Mental Health First Aid Course for the White-Collar Workplace is a combination of eLearning plus a half day of face-to-face teaching. The course is for adults working in a work place environment. The focus of the course is how to help fellow co-workers though course participants will learn mental health first aid skills that can be applied to help any adult.

Regustration for the online component is purchased via mhfa.com.au who will send you registration to the online education portal and MHFA manual.

Course Dates

Registration Status: Registration Open
Course State: Upcoming
Max Participants: 8

Sessions Dates & Times

Friday 9:30 – 12:30pm.

To register for this MHFA Course, please contact:

Name: Cass Quinn
Email: Cass@thatonlineshop.com.au
Phone: 0413863681
Additional Information

Ample parking available. Refreshments provided. Please bring MHFA manual provided to you with online course registration

Follow the Dots training space
7/266 Bolton St
Eltham Victoria 3095
Cassandra Quinn, Accredited MHFA Instructor and Wellbeing Consultant.


Mental Health First Aid Australia is a national not-for-profit organisation focused on mental health training and research. MHFA Australia develops, evaluates and provides a variety of training programs and courses.

How Nature Makes Us Happy

How can we get happy when we’re just not feeling it?  The burning question we all ask.  Sitting or walking outside always makes me happier.  Studying works for me too, especially when it’s the The Science of Happiness or anything to do with ancient eastern traditions of meditation and Ayurvedic lifestyle.  But I get it, we’re not all big readers or lovers or consuming research so what else?

Physical exercise is a proven way of lifting our serotonin levels and hugging increases oxytocin in our bodies – aka happy hormones.  So what happens when we combine physical exercise with nature, and maybe even throw in some friendly company and add in a bit of physical touch for good measure?

A triple hit of natural mood enhancers is what!

This Is My Dream I'll Decide What Happens In It
This Is My Dream I’ll Decide What Happens In It

More below if you’re into a good research article written by Jill Suttie of The Greater Good Science Centre.

How Nature Makes Us Happy

1. Being in nature decreases stress

It’s clear that hiking—and any physical activity—can reduce stress and anxiety. But, there’s something about being in nature that may augment those impacts.
In one recent experiment conducted in Japan, participants were assigned to walk either in a forest or in an urban center (taking walks of equal length and difficulty) while having their heart rate variability, heart rate, and blood pressure measured. The participants also filled out questionnaires about their moods, stress levels, and other psychological measures.
Results showed that those who walked in forests had significantly lower heart rates and higher heart rate variability (indicating more relaxation and less stress), and reported better moods and less anxiety, than those who walked in urban settings. The researchers concluded that there’s something about being in nature that had a beneficial effect on stress reduction, above and beyond what exercise alone might have produced.
In another study, researchers in Finland found that urban dwellers who strolled for as little as 20 minutes through an urban park or woodland reported significantly more stress relief than those who strolled in a city center.
The reasons for this effect are unclear; but scientists believe that we evolved to be more relaxed in natural spaces. In a now-classic laboratory experiment by Roger Ulrich of Texas A&M University and colleagues, participants who first viewed a stress-inducing movie, and were then exposed to color/sound videotapes depicting natural scenes, showed much quicker, more complete recovery from stress than those who’d been exposed to videos of urban settings.
These studies and others provide evidence that being in natural spaces— or even just looking out of a window onto a natural scene—somehow soothes us and relieves stress.

2. Nature makes you happier and less brooding

I’ve always found that hiking in nature makes me feel happier, and of course decreased stress may be a big part of the reason why. But, Gregory Bratman, of Stanford University, has found evidence that nature may impact our mood in other ways, too.
In one 2015 study, he and his colleagues randomly assigned 60 participants to a 50-minute walk in either a natural setting (oak woodlands) or an urban setting (along a four-lane road). Before and after the walk, the participants were assessed on their emotional state and on cognitive measures, such as how well they could perform tasks requiring short-term memory. Results showed that those who walked in nature experienced less anxiety, rumination (focused attention on negative aspects of oneself), and negative affect, as well as more positive emotions, in comparison to the urban walkers. They also improved their performance on the memory tasks.
In another study, he and his colleagues extended these findings by zeroing in on how walking in nature affects rumination—which has been associated with the onset of depression and anxiety—while also using fMRI technology to look at brain activity. Participants who took a 90-minute walk in either a natural setting or an urban setting had their brains scanned before and after their walks and were surveyed on self-reported rumination levels (as well as other psychological markers). The researchers controlled for many potential factors that might influence rumination or brain activity—for example, physical exertion levels as measured by heart rates and pulmonary functions.

Even so, participants who walked in a natural setting versus an urban setting reported decreased rumination after the walk, and they showed increased activity in the subgenual prefrontal cortex, an area of the brain whose deactivation is affiliated with depression and anxiety—a finding that suggests nature may have important impacts on mood.
Bratman believes results like these need to reach city planners and others whose policies impact our natural spaces. “Ecosystem services are being incorporated into decision making at all levels of public policy, land use planning, and urban design, and it’s very important to be sure to incorporate empirical findings from psychology into these decisions,” he says.

SuperLove Tee "Listen to your Soul"
SuperLove Tee “Listen to your Soul”

3. Nature relieves attention fatigue and increases creativity.

Today, we live with ubiquitous technology designed to constantly pull for our attention. But many scientists believe our brains were not made for this kind of information bombardment, and that it can lead to mental fatigue, overwhelm, and burnout, requiring “attention restoration” to get back to a normal, healthy state.
Strayer is one of those researchers. He believes that being in nature restores depleted attention circuits, which can then help us be more open to creativity and problem-solving.
“When you use your cell phone to talk, text, shoot photos, or whatever else you can do with your cell phone, you’re tapping the prefrontal cortex and causing reductions in cognitive resources,” he says.

In a 2012 study, he and his colleagues showed that hikers on a four-day backpacking trip could solve significantly more puzzles requiring creativity when compared to a control group of people waiting to take the same hike—in fact, 47 percent more. Although other factors may account for his results—for example, the exercise or the camaraderie of being out together—prior studies have suggested that nature itself may play an important role. One in Psychological Science found that the impact of nature on attention restoration is what accounted for improved scores on cognitive tests for the study participants.
This phenomenon may be due to differences in brain activation when viewing natural scenes versus more built-up scenes—even for those who normally live in an urban environment. In a recent study conducted by Peter Aspinall at Heriot-Watt University, Edinburgh, and colleagues, participants who had their brains monitored continuously using mobile electroencephalogram (EEG) while they walked through an urban green space had brain EEG readings indicating lower frustration, engagement, and arousal, and higher meditation levels while in the green area, and higher engagement levels when moving out of the green area. This lower engagement and arousal may be what allows for attention restoration, encouraging a more open, meditative mindset.
It’s this kind of brain activity—sometimes referred to as “the brain default network”—that is tied to creative thinking, says Strayer. He is currently repeating his earlier 2012 study with a new group of hikers and recording their EEG activity and salivary cortisol levels before, during, and after a three-day hike. Early analyses of EEG readings support the theory that hiking in nature seems to rest people’s attention networks and to engage their default networks.
Strayer and colleagues are also specifically looking at the effects of technology by monitoring people’s EEG readings while they walk in an arboretum, either while talking on their cell phone or not. So far, they’ve found that participants with cell phones appear to have EEG readings consistent with attention overload, and can recall only half as many details of the arboretum they just passed through, compared to those who were not on a cell phone.
Though Strayer’s findings are preliminary, they are consistent with other people’s findings on the importance of nature to attention restoration and creativity.
“If you’ve been using your brain to multitask—as most of us do most of the day—and then you set that aside and go on a walk, without all of the gadgets, you’ve let the prefrontal cortex recover,” says Strayer. “And that’s when we see these bursts in creativity, problem-solving, and feelings of well-being.”

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Love your Now SuperLove Baseball Style Tee

4. Nature may help you to be kind and generous

Whenever I go to places like Yosemite or the Big Sur Coast of California, I seem to return to my home life ready to be more kind and generous to those around me—just ask my husband and kids! Now some new studies may shed light on why that is.
In a series of experiments published in 2014, Juyoung Lee, GGSC director Dacher Keltner, and other researchers at the University of California, Berkeley, studied the potential impact of nature on the willingness to be generous, trusting, and helpful toward others, while considering what factors might influence that relationship.
As part of their study, the researchers exposed participants to more or less subjectively beautiful nature scenes (whose beauty levels were rated independently) and then observed how participants behaved playing two economics games—the Dictator Game and the Trust Game—that measure generosity and trust, respectively. After being exposed to the more beautiful nature scenes, participants acted more generously and more trusting in the games than those who saw less beautiful scenes, and the effects appeared to be due to corresponding increases in positive emotion.
In another part of the study, the researchers asked people to fill out a survey about their emotions while sitting at a table where more or less beautiful plants were placed. Afterwards, the participants were told that the experiment was over and they could leave, but that if they wanted to they could volunteer to make paper cranes for a relief effort program in Japan. The number of cranes they made (or didn’t make) was used as a measure of their “prosociality” or willingness to help.
Results showed that the presence of more beautiful plants significantly increased the number of cranes made by participants, and that this increase was, again, mediated by positive emotion elicited by natural beauty. The researchers concluded that experiencing the beauty of nature increases positive emotion—perhaps by inspiring awe, a feeling akin to wonder, with the sense of being part of something bigger than oneself—which then leads to prosocial behaviors.
Support for this theory comes from an experiment conducted by Paul Piff of the University of California, Irvine, and colleagues, in which participants staring up a grove of very tall trees for as little as one minute experienced measurable increases in awe, and demonstrated more helpful behavior and approached moral dilemmas more ethically, than participants who spent the same amount of time looking up at a high building.

5. Nature makes you “feel more alive”

With all of these benefits to being out in nature, it’s probably no surprise that something about nature makes us feel more alive and vital. Being outdoors gives us energy, makes us happier, helps us to relieve the everyday stresses of our overscheduled lives, opens the door to creativity, and helps us to be kind to others.
No one knows if there is an ideal amount of nature exposure, though Strayer says that longtime backpackers suggest a minimum of three days to really unplug from our everyday lives. Nor can anyone say for sure how nature compares to other forms of stress relief or attention restoration, such as sleep or meditation. Both Strayer and Bratman say we need a lot more careful research to tease out these effects before we come to any definitive conclusions.
Still, the research does suggest there’s something about nature that keeps us psychologically healthy, and that’s good to know…especially since nature is a resource that’s free and that many of us can access by just walking outside our door. Results like these should encourage us as a society to consider more carefully how we preserve our wilderness spaces and our urban parks.
And while the research may not be conclusive, Strayer is optimistic that science will eventually catch up to what people like me have intuited all along—that there’s something about nature that renews us, allowing us to feel better, to think better, and to deepen our understanding of ourselves and others.
“You can’t have centuries of people writing about this and not have something going on,” says Strayer. “If you are constantly on a device or in front of a screen, you’re missing out on something that’s pretty spectacular: the real world.”

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SuperLove Dancer Sweat “Straight Outta Meditation”

Article first published in The Greater Good Science Journal published by UCLA Berkeley.



Blended Online Face to Face MHFA

Often the comment that is discussed around the 12 hour standard Mental Health First Aid course is that people feel educated about mental health problems, aware of how they can impact change personally and empowered to help others.  But it takes 12 hours.  2 full days or 4 x 3 hour sessions.

Which is why MHFA created the flexible online blended Face to Face course that I’m giving someone the chance to complete at no cost.  A gift from me to the world, because the more awareness we have the better off we all are.  Understanding, awareness, ability to support and the knowledge to know when or if you need to get a medical practitioner or psychologist or health professional involved.  Click here to check out my video explaining the course and the benefits on my Facebook business page @thatonlineshop

Here’s some info from the Mental Health First Aid website that gives more information.  Feel free to comment below or send me an email at cass@thatonlineshop.com.au if you’re interested in snapping up the spot in this program.  Be quick, you’ll need to get snappy with the online study so you’re match ready to talk it out with me and dive deeper into the course content on Feb 4!

Designed for increased flexibility in the delivery of training, a Blended Mental Health First Aid Course is a combination of online (eLearning) and a half day of follow-on face-to-face training. The face-to-face component must be done within 3 months of completing the eLearning component.

Course participants first complete the interactive self-paced eLearning component that teaches them about mental health problems, mental health crises and skills to offer initial help to an adult developing a mental health problem or in a mental health crisis. The follow-on face-to-face session allows participants the opportunity to revise and consolidate knowledge and skills in a group environment, and to apply their skills to specific scenarios.

After completing both steps, participants are eligible to complete a short 20 question online Accreditation Assessment in order to receive a Mental Health First Aider Certificate of Accreditation valid for 3 years. Accredited Mental Health First Aiders are eligible to be appointed as Mental Health First Aid Officers in the workplace.

Mental Health First Aid for everyone, everywhere.

Marriage mantra

Blacklist Studio

Our marriage mantra flags above the bed completely inspired me today.  They’ve been above me for five years or so but today I really loved them, and one of them in particular shook my plans.  REBELS WITH A CAUSE.

Since going on the Desire Mapping journey and becoming a licensed Desire Map Coach my life is getting so much easier.  I know how I want to feel.  I discuss core desired feelings with my family and I communicate with my team more purposefully.  In the last year in our family we have made leaps toward living our life so that we are doing things that make us feel the way we want to feel.  The Desire Map concept is so popular with women because women seem to need to bring emotion to the table and then, well it’s there, and it has to be processed.  The process works perfectly well with men too, just with less chit chat I’m finding.  Either way it seems to work!  Well I think can see behaviour shifts in my man and even my little man.  When we are making decisions, I can go back to the questions, and the boys get it, quickly too.  No, I don’t want to feel like that so I can make a change – in business meetings, in the classroom, at the conference table, at a school gathering or at footy training.  Getting those few core feelings down as carefully selected words are like having a foundation to stand on when things get a little shaky and decisions get easily swayed.  Just a few solid words that mean something to you can do wonders, and nobody even needs to know them.  It’s subtle.

Desire Mapping Goal Setting Life coach/Workshop Facilitator
Desire Mapping Goal Setting Life coach/Workshop Facilitator

I see my bedroom wall several times a day, covered in a few carefully selected words.  Despite overlooking the tired grey wall that my eyes are tired of seeing I love the creativity of the messages yet I rarely stop to notice them – until – after watching the @theminimalists documentary.  I’ve been planning and budgeting for a bedroom renovation for years.  Watching The Minimilists got me realising that my bedroom is actually fine, yeah bigger would be better and one day it will be – but for now that ‘bigger & better’ budget could be spent on life and LOVE – jumping on a new experience, soaking in some new scenery and making memories with my forever people!

Rebels with a Cause Flag

When visitors ask me about the end flag REBELS WITH A CAUSE – the question is always with an odd look ‘what’s that all about?’. Maybe the flags look a little juvenile but maybe that’s what we try to lock away, those parts of us that get drilled down into grown up life. We like to play up as rebels when we can, be free of everybody’s expectations, do things out of order, or at a different pace – and what’s our cause?
Our cause is living together and growing independently within the love bubble of a supportive family.
There you have it.
Our marriage mantra pieces from Blacklist Studio that subtly remind us everyday of how we want to live with love and follow our cause.
I imagine I will add to the wall along the way, when the space and colour changes, something or some event will inspire me. Or you might see me painting the wall white next week and adding the colourful poetic pieces my Mr made me in our first months of rebelling the norm – long distance relationships require a bit of creativity to work!
The “You’re my forever” was the first one I gave to my Mr and the other flags followed. When we do change our bedroom to create a bigger space I’ll find room for more mantras.
But for now we’ll play the rebels and take a family adventure instead of paying out for the bigger better styled space.

The space will happen when it happens. It’s our home and it grows as we grow. It’s enough now.

Blacklist Studio




I’m a guest speaker at the STOP MALE SUICIDE FORUM in Melbourne this Friday. There are still tickets available and the organiser has kindly released a few $50 concession tickets for those that would really benefit from this day. It is an amazing line up of International and Australian experts, professionals, representatives from R U OK? and many of the other incredible support services available to the men in our communities and all over Australia.

A full day of International + Australian experts from all areas of the mental health and wellbeing sector, along with some of the organisations that work to support the cause and operate help lines and crisis services. I’ll be speaking before the R U OK Day representative – um, no pressure…. I will be talking at this forum about my personal lived experience with the suicide loss in our family when my brother reached that point of mental illness that we didn’t really recognise he was experiencing, and weaving in a little of my expertise as a mental health first aid course facilitator and @mhfa_australia instructor.

Mental Health First Aid classes that I am teaching are available and coming up in Eltham early December and Berwick mid December.

email cass@thatonlineshop.com.au if you want further info or look on the website on image. ✌️

Managing people – a blessing

Managing people can be a blessing.

There are challenges, because, well we are people, and unlike robots human beings are known to do unexpected things or even behave in ways uncharacteristic to their centred self.  That’s why I teach meditation, mindfulness and Mental Health First Aid.  I teach because I love sharing knowledge and showing people how a few tweaks and changes to our daily lives and attitudes can result in massive wins personally, for families and communities.

And as many of you know, my Mr and I own 3 endota day spa business (franchised for those new to the endota brand).

Here’s why I LOVE being the leader of our endota spa businesses that are dominated by young, smart, courageous women.

My (our) manager Megan at endota spa Eltham sent this to her team this morning for them to start their day with a powerful and uplifting message – and here’s me tearing up bursting with pride at their genuine understanding of our endota spa mission.

I love being part of any team 💪 but this endota Eltham posse beams with love and togetherness, largely credited to their amazing manager Megan 💖. If you haven’t been, it’s worth it, the therapists glow under the leadership of a young (under 25) manager who I have always called Miss because I have so much respect for her that it doesn’t feel right not to use a prefacing title.


The voices of people with body image issues included in this clip will always, every time I watch it, bring a tear or 90 to my face. Tears of acceptance, happiness and overwhelming pride. As a scarred person myself this resonates personally, but let’s face it – we all have our body shame issues about one thing or a few. And Alessia Cara gets it smack bang 💥 on point, we are all beautiful despite what we think or what the world has trained us to believe.

Stay posted for details of the opportunity to join a collective of genuine beautiful people view the movie Engage which is hard to catch at a cinema but it would be my honour to host a screening for my team and our community✌️️ #endotaspa #endotaeltham #endotacamberwell #endotakew

Share the Dignity #It’s in the bag

I’m so pleased to be supporting this Share the Dignity #It’s in the Bag campaign.  Our team across the 3 endota spas and our Follow the Dots support crew are all getting involved and we invite our local communities to Share the Dignity with us.  Giving to others is scientifically proven to increase your happiness – it’s a no brainer, who doesn’t want to feel a little shot of Happiness?!

The “It’s in the Bag” Christmas campaign idea came to us when we realised that we seem to manage the needs of children at Christmas, ensuring they’re cared for and made to feel special, but the same can’t always be said for those women who put the needs of others before their own. We wanted to make them feel special.

And so the campaign began – we asked Australians to donate a handbag they no longer used, fill it with items that would make a woman feel special and even pop a thoughtful note into the bag to show her that someone cares and that she matters.


Share the Dignity #It’s in the bag

What you put in your gift will depend on your bag size, your budget and your imagination.

Here are some ideas…
Pads, tampons,
Baby wipes, cleansing wipes, tissues
Deodorants, Perfume
Shampoo and conditioner, shampoo in a can
Toothpaste and toothbrush
Hair ties and hair brush
Movie voucher, gift voucher, meal voucher
Jewellery or trinket
Lotions, creams, smelly stuff
Card or note
Socks and Undies

As you can see, what you can put in YOUR kind donation is so individual, so very much appreciated and can make a woman feel very special.
This is an annual campaign, which in 2016, runs from Saturday 19th November 2016 to Saturday 3rd December. We can then get all the kind donations delivered out to the charities that take care of women in need over the Christmas period and will also allow us enough time to get them to remote areas before christmas.


Drop off points for our Follow the Dots campaign are;

🌏Follow the Dots, 7/266 Bolton Street

🌏endota spa Eltham, 6/266 Bolton Street

🌏endota spa Kew, 210 High Street

🌏endota spa Camberwell, 540 Riversdale Rd


Healing TruthBomb

Finding gratitude in some old wounds that have developed new family memories. With our dream pool and hydrotherapy spa just hours away from being usable I am wildly grateful for the work everyone has put into getting it just right for our family, with enough heated hydro spa room for me to do the pain free acqua exercising that I’m precisely grateful to Gwinganna retreat for teaching me the program so I can get the same workout with less impact on my metal joints and anchored bones. It’s taken a while but I can feel it is going to be life changing for my health and wellbeing. Hit me up for pain management venting or questions, if I haven’t experienced it many of my mental health first aid students have shared stories with me.

TruthBomb Deck

The calm presence of water 💦 in my life finally 🙏 Obsessively grateful for my patient and hard working husband that has persisted with showing the most impatient me that the best solutions are sometimes not the quickest, cheapest or easiest 💛

Embrace acceptance – YES!

💭This is important people, not just for girls but young men are starting to have body obsessions.
I watched the movie 🎥 Embrace in Fiji with my children (girl almost 11 and boy 9 going on 10 – yes endota family I snuck out of an afternoon session to cuddle up with my babies – but my capable man was taking notes 💪).

The movie EMBRACE was available in our Fiji hotel because it mentioned how the body obsession had become an international obsession and even reached Fiji.
This film was made by an Adelaide girl so power to her BUT it’s difficult to see here;

If anyone of you want to see it I am happy to organise to host a screening locally in Melbourne as my beautiful cousin Dimity Emery Mumfitness did in Brisbane.

Bring your children, your husband, we need to discuss this and show our young ones and also to reaffirm to our older friends and family that you are good enough as you are!

Not too young ones as there is a bit of imagery on plastic surgery to all parts of the body (yes including down there).
Personal choice – I choose to confront these issues with my children so I can lead their ideas rather than them finding these images elsewhere and getting lead down a different path without my knowledge….

Beauty comes in many forms. Every human deserves love and respect regardless of shape, colour, race or gender.

Here’s the movie link, post a comment or email me at followthedots@thatonlineshop.com.au if you’re interested in a Melbourne screening and I’ll happily arrange it. ✌️️💛🙏

Victorian Embrace Screenings

The Flannel Flower represents resilience

The Flannel Flower is the representative flower for MHFA.  The Flannel flower is similar to Mental Health First Aid in that they both originated in Australia and show resilience, tell a story of growth despite adversity and the connection between the individual and the surrounding community.

I personally love the Flannel Flower because it’s easy to make a daisy chain crown with, and who doesn’t like to tap into the natural environment and get creative.  Daisy chaining is an essential tool as far as I am concerned – Daisies optional, but i do LOVE the wild daisies available at our family property in the Clare Valley, SA.

Much like I do love to teach MHFA, and my experiences growing up in Adelaide and rural South Australia provide me such demonstrative experience to explain how we can apply Mental Health training and emotional first aid to change and save lives in the same way we do with our medical first aid training – a bandage or a conversation can both bridge a gap until the professionals can do their magic if and when the help of a GP, hospital, psychologist or counsellor ate required.

The mind controls the body and the body controls the breath – not always in that order but if you can remember 3 things – MIND BODY BREATH are helpful to remember when assisting anyone when applying mental or emotional first aid and temporary bandaging.

Melinda Brown-2015


Following the Dots – change is inevitable

Change is inevitable, and we always have a choice.

All of this is temporary

It’s true, we’re changing.  For us following the dots is about looking forward and as Steve Jobs says to some extent connecting the dots looking backward – to confirm the journey.  I prefer looking forwards to what life has in store, following my gut and being open to the signs and opportunities that arise so have always used the phrase “follow the dots”.

It just has a bit more of that ‘go with the flow’ kind of feeling for me.  Following, wandering, observing and making choices to change course when the urge arises.  Connecting to me seems a little more structured and engineered.  For me it is connecting with an intuitive faith that I am following my path.  Just semantics really – the sentiment is bang on!

Steve Jobs connect the dots quote image

The good news about our shop changes is there’s clearance priced products to snap up. You’ll find all the children’s range and home decor items generously reduced as we clear our space.

Change is inevitable, everything is temporary, and the fun concept of thatonlineshop…follow the dots has been a wonderful and challenging ride through the developing online retail space.  It’s crazy to think that when we first started trading as thatonlineshop none of the big brands were online yet, hence the business name ‘that online shop’.  The technology behind ecommerce has been a roller coaster for us who new NOTHING about how to build a website and transform our dreamy ideas into a clickable space.   But we learned – a lot.

One of the key learnings for me has come from working with the professionals in the tech industry.  This is a fast moving, smart working tribe of professionals that have to stay ahead of their game.  Kudos and respect to all I.T gurus and digital dreamers –  our speedy world relies more and more on devices and digital communication.  It makes sense that our children need to learn to live in a digital world, learning to code isn’t a sci-fi subject anymore, and I see the swiftness with how my children adapt to changing technologies quickly – they’re certainly more nimble than me.

On a sneaky side note – playing Xbox NBL seems to actually improve my sons real life basketball game.  Maybe it’s just a coincidental sign of the times.  My brothers used to study the NBL games on tv then reinact the moves.  I still like to touch and read books, but I also love that I can study The Science of Happiness with the University of California, Berkeley online from Melbourne, Australia  (or this week Fiji) from my iPhone!


Back to business.  The change required to keep up is constant and despite our little shop continuing to grow with a lack of resources, both human hours and financial, thatonlineshop has maintained organic growth.  So why are we changing you might ask?  We are happily invested in endota spas – we like working with people so that’s what has drawn our attention.  Our direction has been pulled – not off course, but just not on course for thatonlineshop.  It’s not surprising as we didn’t really have a clear plan mapped out for thatonlineshop – we’ve been testing the water and following the dots.  It was like a sneaky little side trip that kept going, on the side.  It’s been fun, but retail is not our passion.

Matthew has found a rekindled passion in his professional area of property, using his 20 years of property valuation experience in Perth, Adelaide and Melbourne to help, advise and advocate for buyers in the property market.  It is a joy to professionally help and assist people who value your knowledge, and always a privilege when the assistance is received with gratitude – as it often does.

Teach Peace  Tee

I find business is a bit like relationships – you either commit to growing and developing or you part ways.  We’ve loved our creative journey with thatonlineshop and creating the Follow the Dots shop and meeting space.  What we’ve learned is that creating connections and valuing space for community to gather, learn and share knowledge is what really rocks our world.  So we chose not to continue investing in the fast paced online retail space and are tailoring our work to fit with our world.   We’ve let go of the focus on screen time retail and are riding the wave of our service based offering – we are ‘people people’ that have learned how to use the techie stuff to do what we love. The website delivered products all over the world, and  technology allowed me to deliver a Mental Health First Aid workshop for the Fair Work Commission –  digitally delivering me to conference rooms around Australia.  Truly trippy!

Mental Health First Aid for everyone, everywhere.

So the good news is that the people focused items on thatonlineshop will continue to be there for you.  The Aromatherapy, the positive affirmation & lifestyle comforts, the workshops and mental health first aid courses and most importantly while the website will be moving away from being an extensive retail shop and morphing into delivering goals with soul workshops, teaching mental health, and coaching one to clients – plus the odd speaking engagement,  we will continue to have a selection of products on the website that we hope help you ‘feel the way you want to feel’.

Adding the elegant TruthBomb decks and keeping the @superlovetees clothing is a no brainer because, well, you all love them, and we do too – we’re on the same journey of spreading happiness worldwide.

Love what you do – wear what you love.

Life can feel the way you want it to feel.

So cheers to change.